AyunuS, on 2012-October-17, 01:09, said:
I once was playing a hand where I had a really good hand. I don't remember exactly other than that I had 7 diamonds, 5 hearts, and a singleton A of some other suit, and I think I had 3 total A and some other good stuff, but I don't know the details. I had for so long been hoping to maybe someday get dealt something like the ultimate hand, and though I don't remember it exactly, I think this hand wasn't too far away from being one. In any case, my partner opened 1♣ and I thought it was best to show a 5-card major first if I had one, so I responded 1♥ and then he bid 1NT. I didn't think he'd use NMF so I just bid 2♦ as I figured he'd at least take it as forcing, and then he jumped to 3NT. I don't like it when players bid this kind of thing since it makes me wonder if their hand really might be stronger than the 12-14 I normally consider the 1NT response, so I didn't very well know what he had. In any case, I still knew we should have a diamond fit since he bid NT before I ever showed diamonds, and so I figured he'd have at least 2 of them, and iirc I made some ridiculous-looking diamond bid, and then he booted me from the table and wouldn't even let me play the hand. I was so disappointed since I'd been searching for so long and had so rarely ever gotten hands even this good that I really wanted to play it. I looked it up in the results afterwards and remember whoever showed up did make the contract that I had bid. In any case, does someone have some words of wisdom as to how I can not get booted from the table apparently just for an apparently bad bid?
First, you have to accept that there are a lot of people who know a lot less than they think they do and boot you or leave as soon as something goes wrong.
However, you have some misconceptions. Before nmf, 1C-1H-1N-2D was played as non-forcing. Think about it. Sometimes you have shape and a six count. You respond in your five card hear suit, partner bids 1NT on his 12-14, maybe you have five diamonds so probably you have a diamond fit, or maybe a heart fit, you bid 2D, pass or correct. That was the idea. So, in theory at least, a non-forcing 2D could be useful. Of course this almost never happened. Partner has 12-14, you have a weak hand, the opponents most likely have been in with their spades long before you ever got to your second call. Usually anyway. So 2D became artificial and forcing. Almost everyone plays this, or some variant. . Partner presumably took 2D as nmf with an invit hand or better, and with his max just decided to make the practical call of 3NT.
I suggest that you put on your profile that you prefer SAYC with nmf, Capp, standard leads and carding. Or skip the Capp if you prefer. Then follow it. You will still have rude parnters leaving in a huff, I have never found a way to prevent this, but you will also have people who like playing the same way and will stick around even when things go wrong.
Good luck.
By the way: 1C-1D-1NT-2H is game forcing (or at least forcing, and I think most would say game forcing) and shows more diamonds than hearts. If you had, as you say, a really good hand with more diamonds than hearts, that would be a good way to bid it. Bidding diamonds, then the higher ranking hearts, is a totally different situation from 1C-1S-1N-2H which most play as pass or correct, a weak hand with five spades and four hearts.