[helene_t]

I'm new to BBO and play until now in the main room only.

It occurs to me that people chat very little, and very frequently run away without saying good-bye, sometimes even in the middle of the game, and for no apparent reason. In some cases, I can immagine that p gets annoyed because I ruin a cold contract (I'm no World Champion), but even then I think it's a bad attitude.

Is their any solution to that problem? Any codes that I could use in my profile (or in the table label if I create a table)? Or should I just skip the main room and play tournaments? I would expect the main room to be more pleasant than tournaments, like leasure bridge is more pleasant than tournaments in real life, but I could be wrong.

[mr1303]

I think this is a very common experience for all of us sadly. However, the only times I leave without a warning is when someone has offended me. They get put on my enemy list fairly quickly too. Otherwise, if I decide that I've had enough bridge for this session, I say "sorry everyone, last hand for me. Thanks all for the game".

You could start putting "friendly players only" in your table description, but sadly I think you'll find no difference whatsoever. So what I do these days is generally play with people I already know.

[aisha759]

Welcome to BBO Helene
You are absolutely right that it feels very insulting when a partner just leaves suddenly without so much of a white lie like " sorry p, enjoyed playing, but an emergency has come up"...
You will find many rude players but just as many polite ones; it just takes time... and since you are new on BBO and until you find yourself a few "friendly" partners, you will have such experiences... don't let it get you down, it happens to all of us, still!!
Tourneys are also great fun, and your partner cannot leave in the middle of it, but if he is unhappy with you, he may make your time miserable with complaints about your play, bid and/or defense..... what i'm trying to say is that you cant run away from unpleasant partners, but you have to go thru a few until you find the right one...
There is absolutely no reason why one cannot politely excuse himself from a game in the main bridge club...as mr1303 mentioned in his post, you may want to put a table description for friendly players, it might work, but dont bet on it!

P.S. If you come to my table, you will find that some people leave because we chat too much and have a nice time, and you will always be welcome to join

Have a nice day

Aisha

[csdenmark]

Helene you will always be welcome to play with me - especially for Precision. I don't leave you!

If you prefere to play opps. at my table and your partner leaves you - he will no doubt face penalty as I have this table description - and in such cases I will handle the report.

Beznazwy, Lambda, Regres, Moscito, Quadri Italia, Leghorn Diamond, Roman Club, Precision, Meckwell, Hamway, Blue Team, Polish Club, KS. ----------------------------------------------- I don’t play SAYC,2o1,ACOL etc. WEB: http://csdenmark.n2v.net ------------------------------------------ Table jumping, incl. sucked to tourney, will be reported for misconduct. Don’t sit if you have less than 1 hour. All serious players welcome.

[DJNeill]

Hi H,
Start marking people as enemies. Right-click on their name, and put the radio button on 'enemy'. This will mark their name in black, so you can recognize later with whom you'd rather not play. In that same area, you can additionally put a comment about the person ("leaves", "impolite", etc.).

Finally, and only if you have time, make sure you log all chat, and if someone ever is completely out of line in comments, simply email abuse at bridgebase dot com (change those words into an email address) with the chat as evidence. It's ok even if you don't have the chat log probably. You will help make BBO a better place for everyone.

Thanks,
Dan ('djneill')

[dogsbreath]

Hi H ...
Slice a potato in half, carve their initials on one half and bury it in your garden.
Send the other half to Claus. That works for me )
...and dont let these rude people bother you ..plenty nice players on BBO
gl Dog

[slothy]

helene_t, on May 21 2004, 03:33 AM, said:

I'm new to BBO and play until now in the main room only.

It occurs to me that people chat very little, and very frequently run away without saying good-bye, sometimes even in the middle of the game, and for no apparent reason.

Dear Helene,

I can only assume that is your name by your nik and if it is not, thank you for confusing me

Obviously, by your experience, you have never played at a table with me and my p!!!! one who incidently has beaten me to responding to this post.

Your only concern is what strategy to adopt to get me to shut up!! Many have been tried, but alas none seem to work effectively...

I have very little idea why people have no desire to chat...this is not a live tournament and nothing important is really at stake. And if people think there is, then perhaps they have to have a good look at themselves ( i have a mirror by my computer just for these moments: sometimes i scare myself but hey that's life). I see it is an opportunity to play social bridge, and play good bridge too, but to me it is important to get the balance right. Play well but dont tear your hair it if you make a mistake (assuming you are not wearing a wig)

There is an old Cherokee saying "oh-shaa ma ta ba lo-me-na" ....

I have NO IDEA what it means but i heard this old Cherokee warrior say it at this wigwam sale at my local supermarket. I am sure though that it has some relevance and meaning as to the attitude you should adopt.

You soon find you gravitate to playing, at least in the main room, with people who you can get on with and are up to your standard. ie 'the balance'

Lots of happy bridging

Alex

Ps If you make a good apple strudel and understand the offside rule in football, you are welcome at my table any time

As for Doggy' advice about slicing a potato in half and sticking it in the garden???
Listen, he is Irish....need i say more??